Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Letting go of the safety net


Our lives are always under construction,
but sometimes it may feel like a demolition crew...
has entered your safe little sanctuary...
and torn down your foundation...
without your permission.
Life is like that sometimes.
It can shake you to your core.
It can cause fear and confusion.
But trust the wisdom of these experiences.
Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself.
Be patient with the process of rebuilding.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

A wake-up call

Some of my best character building lessons have required me
to fall on my head (metaphorically speaking).
I've been humbled in ways that still cause me to grimace.
At times, I can be prideful, stubborn, and ignorant (unaware or in denial).
I say this kindness and compassion.
I think it's true for most people.
We get stuck in self-defeating patterns until life gives us
the perfect lesson to wake us up.


Monday, November 24, 2014

Staying awake

It's not an easy task to be awake. Awake means we are fully present to our experiences rather than looking for the exit door when things get uncomfortable. The exit door can be denial, busyness, or other things. In my case, it would probably be food. Especially when the feeling of anxiousness shows up. My first impulse is to numb the feeling rather than accepting it.

When we escape from the feeling, we've fallen back asleep. We may think we have cleverly found freedom but in fact, we have put ourselves in a cage.  Though it may seem more comfortable to be asleep, it comes with a high price tag. Always seeking to escape our feelings rather than being with them develops into bad habits, compulsive behaviors, and addiction.


Sunday, November 23, 2014

Healing shame

Trying to contain our shame story rather than heal it only keeps us stuck in it. What is the shame story? That we have to be perfect. That we can't be wrong or make mistakes. That we're not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough...

So we secretly work hard to hide our flaws because we're afraid to be who we are. 

What causes shame? Growing up with negative messages that made us feel inadequate. Unresolved abuse issues that not only shredded our spirit, but left an imprint of feeling defective. Emotional abandonment which is another form of abuse. There are many factors that cause shame. All which can be debilitating! 

There is escape from shame except to face and heal it. The price of denial is suffering.

How do you heal it? We tenderly expose the shame by sharing it with someone safe. This life changing exercise begins to magically open the door not only to living more open-heartedly, but also gifting us with a beautiful sense of freedom we've never had before.


Saturday, November 22, 2014

Freedom from the past

When you let go of all the illusions...
 you've been clinging to for safety, 
all the sorrow you've carried for so long,
will have the freedom to express itself.


"All your past is gone except for the beauty of it"
- A Course in Miracles


Friday, November 21, 2014

Leaning into life

Imagine how much easier life would be if we didn't judge or label everything.
Whether you're aware of it or not, your mind is busy determining what's
right or wrong, what's good or bad. .

Can you trust that everything is just as it's suppose to be? Remember that our
minds are very limited so when things don't look as we think they should,
we meet them with fear and resistance. You will find more peace when you can
lean into the experience, accepting what is, trusting the wisdom of life.


Thursday, November 20, 2014

Resting on shaky ground

Isn't it nice when we're feeling low and then something comes along that inspires us? For that moment we feel lifted and excited with new ideas. In a way this can be helpful, but the flip side is that whatever feeling we previously had that was uncomfortable, was our opportunity to relax into the discomfort rather than move away from it. It can be challenging to see goodness when our lives feel mundane. But the high we get from being lifted up is only temporary. Over and over we find ourselves in the position of seeking the next thing to make us feel okay which causes a constant subtle (or not-so subtle) current of anxiety. We've accept it as normal, but it's not.
So what's the solution? Sitting uncomfortably in the ordinariness until it feels like home. We can end our search for something that doesn't exist and relax into the sacredness of what is. Rather than strive for a life that requires us to seek fulfillment, we are fulfilled by the truth of what life is about...uncertainty, change, many uncomfortable moments...